I like you a lot, so having a larger role in your life would make for an ultrafun 2023 for me!

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How is your knee doing? Did you end up running that race, and if so, how did you feel? The Rock & Roll detour signs are getting prepped in my neighborhood. Are you going to run that? Or, is that more like "Just a single marathon on pavement? PFFT, too easy!"?


My 2023 plans are ultra flexible, but this is what I have thus far... too many Southwest miles to use, so more flying and less driving:

KISS: Keep It Simple, Silly 😘

For the most part, I'll keep it simple by focusing on my home & garden. I've been toiling away at my digital home (this site). It's super simple & silly but it's a start. I have a little bit of polish to apply to FotoLog before I bug you for your opinion there.

It's scary putting yourself out there. After considering some frameworks for a personal site/blog, I decided to go with something more home grown using to stitch together some html templates and bundle the js & css. I wanted something that harkened back to the olden days of the web: html, some non-critical javascript, and perhaps a server-side endpoint or two. My great nephews & neice are 7-13 years old, so I want to be able to have a story that is accessible to them in case they're like "Uncle, how'd you do that? How do I do that?" If there's a spark, I'd like to help fuel their fire.

Duty Before Desire

I'm planning to help my ex-wife move back to Brazil in February. Part of my motivation is fun & adventure: I haven't traveled abroad in close to 4 years. Plus, I never experienced Carnival, not even a Fat Tuesday here in the US. Lots of noise, drinking, and dancing is not my jam but I feel like I should give it the ol' college try. The main reason I'm doing it is out of a sense of duty. I'm not proud of how I handled some aspects of our divorce, nothing egregious, but embarrassing nonetheless.

Doing things out of duty is a ghost that has haunted me most of my life. I've been working towards reducing my responsibilities and focusing on myself, but I worry that I'm being selfish and that I will end up alienating too many people. As a woman, a wife, a mom, and someone from Japan, I bet you're LOL'ing when someone like me is complaining about doing things out of duty, ne? :)


I tried to keep this short-ish. There's always plenty for us to chat about. I'd love to hear more about you but I worry of prying too much. I have to admit that I'm struggling to calibrate how to engage with you. I've had a crush on you since we worked for Bob Babrah at Blah Blawgix, but I never acted on my feelings because doing the right thing trumps all. I hope that doesn't make you uncomfortable. I know you have your own duties & desires to tend to. I don't want you to feel pressured or obligated to respond. I don't want to give you unwanted attention, so let me know if this is too much.

I promise that you will never owe me anything: your time, explanations, etc. At our age, time becomes more precious. I have my insecurities but jealousy is not one of them. Even though you are outta my league, I would never worry about how you spend your time. I consider myself a humble worm and you a beautiful song bird. The simple worm does not question the beautiful bird, but instead fears and simultaneously celebrates her. To be of service to a more noble cause is all a worm such as me can hope for.

More to come if you desire...